Words From the Mom of a Colicky Baby

Last week, I posted this photo on Instagram to celebrate Berkley turning one month old. 

Except, the photo isn’t all rainbows and butterflies like it should be. There’s no smiling baby in this photo. 

Looking back, at the time, I didn’t realize how good we had it with Morley. She was an easy baby - loved her sleep, never made a peep and was happy happy happy. 

With a completely opposite pregnancy this time around, I should have known that these two would be completely opposite babies. I should have seen it coming.

Just when you think you have got this mama thing down pat, you get a wrench thrown in the mix.

But, even if I did see the writing on the wall, I don’t think I could have prepared myself for this. I never truly knew what a colicky baby meant until it started taking over my life.

For those scratching their heads at the word colic, let me explain it to you… it’s an ugly beast. The long bouts of crying for no apparent reason leave you exhausted, frustrated and heartbroken, not being able to do a damn thing about it. 

Words From the Mom of a Colicky Baby

While the above post was originally intended to celebrate baby girl’s one month in the world, something else happened. 

Below the post, came an outpouring of support. Words of encouragement, advice and messages I needed to hear. Words from moms like me. Words from those that had experienced colic in the past, those currently going through it, those that knew someone that had and those that simply just care. 

Here is what the messages said,

“My niece was colicky for 6 months… It never seemed to let up. You nailed it on the head though, it’s extremely exhausting, frustrating and heartbreaking.”

“Sending you both hugs.”

“Sending love. We went through colic too and it was one of the hardest experiences.”

“I can relate to this. All I can say is it will get better. Continue to stay strong mama!”

“Every time doctors said colic, it was ALWAYS an actual reason. Gas was a huge one. So was teething. Then reflux, then a virus, but gas was a huge one. She cried in pain and the doctors said colic. All of them. You adorable sweetheart’s colic could definitely be something else.”

“I hope it gets better soon! We had symptoms of colic too and it turned out to be a food intolerance. She’s a totally different baby now that she is dairy, soy and corn free.”

“My first son was colicky and it is so challenging and disheartening at times when you simply can’t console them. The good news is that it DOES get better. Hang in there mama…”

“Oh no. That’s so hard, especially with no sleep. Hang in there and ask for help when you need it…”

“Have you tried probiotics? Biogaia was a life saver. May seem like it’s not working as it takes a week or two, but omg saved my life the first year. Also, it’s good at preventing colds/flus too.”

“Sending lots of love and sleeping dust your way mama…”

“Oh I remember this stage. Sending good vibes because it can be pretty tough.”

“Hand in there sweetie! Those adorable little girls are so lucky to have a mama like you!”

“I was in it too mama! Just keep going. I felt like it would never get better, but then it does and you are stronger than ever for your little one! It is heartbreaking and so hard to see them go through but you are doing an awesome job, always remember that.”

“I know that there’s nothing I can say to help it pass, or to make it easier. But know that I survived it, there is a light at the end, and what helped me was to reset ALL of my expectations. Hang in there and we love you!”

Absolutely incredible.

So, why am I sharing these words?

I’m sharing these messages because the post made me realize something. It made me realize that I am not alone. There are other moms out there that are exhausted, frustrated and heartbroken over an inconsolable child. There are other moms out there that are struggling to get through the rough patches. And so, by sharing these messages, my hope is that these words of advice and encourage will also help them see the light at the end of the tunnel, just like they did me. 

At the end of the day, we’ll work through it. At the end of the day,  these next few months are only going to be hard on one person, and that’s me. At the end of the day, Berkley is not going to remember the screaming, or the gas, or the fussiness. We’ll work through it. And we’ll be just fine. 

Did you experience colic with your littles? I’d love to hear your stories, tips and tricks. 

My "Oh, Shit" Moment

Earlier this week, we made the executive decision to remove our toddler from full time daycare, while I’m on maternity leave.

In simple terms, that means that I will be home, alone, with a 2 1/2 year old and an infant. All by myself, 5 days a week, 8+ hours a day, until I go back to work next August.

Just me, myself and I, and my two gals.

I have spent hours trying to justify the decision - with my husband (who was 100% on board), with my parents, with his parents and most importantly, with myself. Was it the right thing to do? 

Financially? Absolutely. Daycare isn’t cheap, especially when you’re down to one income and still have loads of other bills to pay. But what about socially? Academically? For my own sanity? Well, that is where I’m struggling…

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a wave of anxiety rush over me, followed by an “oh shit, what have I done?!” moment, as I hit send on the email to the daycare supervisor.

But, what’s done is done. No take backs now. 

Oh, shit. 

As an informal educator by career, I’ve done my fair share of writing curriculum, leading programs, running day camps and managing entire classrooms. My summers growing up were spent babysitting the neighbourhood kids. And while they by no means prepares you for motherhood, my point is, I’m used to working with little ones. 

However, those kids weren’t MY kids. It becomes a much different ball game when they’re YOUR kids. The rules change. (And you can’t give them back at the end of the day…)

Morley has fully embraced her role as a big sister since miss Berkley entered the world mid-August. In the month since little sissy’s arrival, she has become this loving, helpful and independent little girl. However, she has also started to discover the attention is no longer all on her. Some days, it’s a full on whine and cheese party in our place. The drama is real. And now, I’m tasked with keeping her occupied and stimulated all day - finding a balance between giving her the attention she needs, while taking care of both baby and, if time permits, myself. 

So yes, I’m over here panicking a little bit. 

I’m also over here feeling guilty. That goddam mom guilt. The guilt I felt when we initially sent her to daycare over a year and a half ago, is back. In full force. 

You really can’t win, can you?

While she has only been at this specific school since June, she has completely settled into her new role as the now older kid in the toddler room. I feel guilty for removing her from her friends. But, I also feel guilty from removing her from learning. She’s 2 1/2, she will get over the other kids and teachers. But, what about the learning? Will I be able to do what her teachers could do?

The answer is, no. No, I won’t. 

But, can I do it? 

The answer is, yes. Yes I can.

I know I don’t need to be super mom. I know I don’t need to have a laid out lesson plan, themed weeks, Pinterest-perfect crafts or even an organic menu. I also know that it may take me losing my patience a handful of times before we get there, and maybe even putting on an episode or two more of some god awful YouTube video or TV show. But, we will get there. 

We can do it. I can do it.

I do love a good challenge.

Mommy daycare, here we come. 

Are you a stay at home mom? How do you do it? I’d love to hear ALL of your tips and tricks!

Fall Family Traditions

*This post is sponsored by Bayer. To make sure these products are right for you, always read and follow the label.

It’s hard to believe that in just ten short days, we will be saying an official goodbye to summer. Fall is just around the corner. 

After spending the majority of the summer basking in the AC (thank you pregnancy), I am excited to be able to get outside and enjoy the cooler weather, crisp air and changing colours this fall with my family. That is, before baby and I go back into hibernation this winter. 

Fall is the chance for new traditions, new routines and new memories.  And while we have our favourites, we are so excited to be able to create new ones with little sissy this season.

Fall Family Traditions

In our family, fall is filled with fun family traditions. Here are just a few of our favourite. 

Go apple and pumpkin picking.
No fall is complete without a visit to the local apple orchard or pumpkin patch to pick your own. Many farms also offer special activities for families, such as hayrides, petting farms, corn mazes and more. 

And because picking apples and pumpkins (and, ahem, chasing after a toddler, ahem) is a tough job, and can bring aches and pains, we always keep ALEVE® in our diaper bag, just in case. After a full day of activities, ALEVE® Nighttime helps to relieve mom and dad's muscle aches and pains for up to 12 hours - plus it has a sleep aid to help fall asleep and stay asleep after a fun-filled day.

>> You may also like:  Tips for Apple Picking with Your Family

Fall Family Traditions

Bake all the fall goodies.
Once you leave the orchard, don’t let the apple fun stop. Head home and make some homemade apple sauce, apple pie or apple crisp (our personal favourites).

A trip to the family cottage.
One of my favourite times to visit our family cottage is in the fall, when the leaves are changing. The tourists have all gone home for the year, so it is much quieter, and there’s just something about the smell of a wood fire in the fall that makes me happy.

Go on a fall walk.
There’s nothing better than going for a long, fall walk to take in all the sensory experiences the season has to offer - from the smell of fresh air, to the colourful changing leaves. And for our toddler, jumping in the fall leaves.

But with the change of season comes a change to our wardrobe. Switching from sandals to shoes and boots can be uncomfortable as our feet get used to different footwear. To help ease any discomfort, add a pair of Dr. Scholl’s® Comfort and Energy Massaging Gel® Insoles your footwear. These insoles are great for foot and leg fatigue, with gel waves that massage the most sensitive areas of your foot.

Fall Family Traditions

Watch a fall sunset.
There’s just something about a sunset, am I right? Although it means the days are getting shorter, fall sunsets can be enjoyed by the whole family because they now take place earlier in the evening. It is the perfect time to turn off what you’re doing and just sit and enjoy the rainbow sky.

>> You may also like: 50 Essential Fall Activities 

Our family is always looking for new fall activities to do together. What are some of your favourites? I’d love to hear!

*This post is sponsored by Bayer. To make sure these products are right for you, always read and follow the label.

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Morley's Book Club: Favourite Toddler Story Books

As Morley has gotten older, we've really fine-tuned her bedtime routine. 

After dinner, we wind down in the living room, usually colouring or doing a puzzle before bath time. After the little mermaid decides to get out of the water, we get her "jammas" on. With her cup of milk in hand (and her blanket and multiple stuffies tucked under her arms), it's off to bed.

But, before the lights go out, we must first read a few "stowies". Of Morley's choosing, of course. 

Favourite Toddler Story Books

The books that Morley loves, and that keep her attention, are always changing. Gone are the days of simple board books. Nowadays, the books we read have gotten a little longer and a little more complex. Whether it is bringing home baby, going potty or learning about different animals, the books we read always include some type of lesson or message. And when Morley finds a book she likes, like really likes, we will read it over and over, night after night, until we can all practically read it with our eyes closed. Morley included. 

So, what are we reading these days?

Welcome to Morley's Book Club. These are her current favourites.

Favourite Toddler Story Books

Do I need to explain this one? What kid doesn't love talking about poop?! I picked up this read at a visit to the Jacksonville Zoo last winter, but it is available wherever books are sold. Originally a Japanese story, it has been translated into an English version. As the title suggests, it talks about how everyone poops - from animals to kids and adults. The book contains various prompts regarding how animals poop, such as opposites (big poop vs little poop), comparisons (shapes and sizes) and questions (what do you think it looks like?). A MUST have for any kid that is currently potty training.

There are many reasons we love this book. First, it's Dr Suess. What's not to love about a Dr Suess book?! Especially one with a message. And a message this nature-loving mama can stand behind. The Lorax chronicles the plight of the environment and the Lorax, who speaks for the trees against the Once-ler. As in most Dr. Seuss works, most of the creatures mentioned are original to the book. We also enjoy it for the kookiness, silly words and rhyming. The length of the book is perfect, and Morley rarely lasts through the whole thing (even though I continue reading because I enjoy it so much).

Another Dr Suess favourite. This one is a bit of an easier read for younger kids, with opposites, colours, numbers and rhyming. And of course, lots and lots of dogs. The book describes the actions and interactions of a group of dogs, who operate cars and other forms of transportation in pursuit of work, play, and a final mysterious goal - a dog party. We have read this book so many times that Morley can now recite it by heart and I often have her "read" pages of the book to me. 

Growing up, Mercer Mayer's Little Critter books were a staple in our house. We purchased this book for Morley when we found out she was going to be a big sister in the hopes that it would give her a small glimpse into what it would be like. We also used it in our pregnancy announcement

Mama and baby animals, beautiful illustrations, counting and rhyming? What's not to love about this book?! This book will have you prancing and dancing through the Arctic, and will introduce your little one to the fascinating animal mamas and their babies that the Arctic home. Can be read or sung to the tune of Over in the Meadow.  

PAW Patrol is like crack to little kids, I swear. But it is also the one TV show that Morley watches that I can stand behind and also find myself enjoying. This story book starring Nickelodeon's PAW Patrol! is perfect for kids who love Adventure Bay's favourite pups. Each story can be read in five minutes or less, so it's also perfect for bedtime!

>> You may also like: Favourite Animal Children's Books

Favourite Toddler Story Books

What are some of your children's favourite books? Have you read any of these? I'd love to hear!

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A Tale of the Curious Toddler: Normalizing Breastfeeding

“Why is baby eating mama’s booby?”, my 2 1/2 year old toddler innocently asked, staring at me from across the room as I sat hooked up for what felt like the 479,836th time that day.

She has seen me topless before, it’s called the “toddler no privacy” rule, but it never really dawned on me that breastfeeding would be something totally new. I had considered all of the changes that Morley would experience as we welcomed baby #2 - less attention, baby crying, possible regression, etc. - but breastfeeding was not one of them. As Morley would say, “Silly mama”.

But before I get further into the story, let’s back the train up a bit. For those that didn’t see it plastered all over my social media, we welcomed little sister Berkley on August 14. Settling in as a family of four (and more importantly, as a new big sister) has been well, um, interesting… 

Teaching Children About Breastfeeding

My breastfeeding journey has not been an easy one to this point. When Morley was a baby, I really struggled. I felt that I was inadequate because I couldn’t produce enough milk. I felt shamed by the hospital nurses when I went for a lactation consultation because it just wasn’t taking the way they wanted it to. I went into hiding when it was time to feed, afraid I’d be judged if I did it at a restaurant, at the park or anywhere in public. I lacked confidence in my ability to naturally feed my daughter. Because of that, I didn’t make it past six months before I switched to formula. And while I fully believe that "fed is best", I didn’t want that to happen again. 

Now, with baby #2, I’m going in knowing what to expect. I’m going in with more confidence. I’m going in knowing that it will be hard at first and that it will be painful at first, but that I just need to power through. No one said being a mom was easy - especially being the mom of a toddler AND a newborn.

More confidence for mom, means more exposure for Morley.

Teaching Children About Breastfeeding

And so, back to her innocent observation...

“This is how baby eats,” I try to explain. With my biology background, I could spew facts at her for days, but realize my audience and that I need to keep it simple. “She can’t eat big girl food like you and I, she drinks mom’s milk. Just like you did when you were her size.” “I want to see the milk come out,” she asks. Why the hell not, I think.

Breastfeeding is such a normal and very natural process. I want her to be involved as much as possible. From grabbing me the nursing pillow, to handing me my glass of water, hell, to even seeing “the milk come out”. I refuse to shy away from what breastfeeding really is. I want her to be comfortable when she sees me feeding, and more importantly nurturing, her little sister. 

I want our family to be able to have an open dialogue when it comes to the body. I want Morley to be able to ask me questions about feeding baby in hopes that when she gets older, she will be able to come to me with questions about her own body. (And thanks to Ontario’s government reinstating the 1998 sex ed curriculum in schools - yes 1998, aka what her dad and I learned when we were in elementary school 20 years ago - the majority of teaching is going to come down to us anyways.)

Teaching Children About Breastfeeding

We may only be two weeks into this journey as a family of four, but Morley is quickly learning what breastfeeding means and that it is natural. She has learned that when Berkley cries, she is hungry. And that when Berkley is “eating mama’s booby”, mama is actually giving little sister her breakfast, lunch or dinner, just in a different way than her and I would eat.

She has also begun to take notice out in public. She'll casually point out when she notices a mom feeding her baby before getting distracted and moving on. And, she's also learned that it's not just humans that feed their babies this way. Other animals do it too. On our recent end of summer trip to the CNE, we paid a visit to the Farm Building. It’s Morley’s favourite, she loves seeing the animals. She also loves seeing the baby animals. This visit, she happened to see the baby piglets feeding from their mom. And thanks to our talks about mommy feeding baby, she knew exactly what was going on and wasn’t shy to say it. That's my girl.

So, she gets it. Or, she is at least starting to get why mommy is always sitting in the chair with baby latched to her boob.

Now if only she’d understand why I can’t do five other things at the same time…

How did you explain breastfeeding to your children? Did you take a more conservation approach, or were you completely transparent? I’d love to hear your stories!

Road Trippin' We Will Go: Family Travel Safety

I have partnered with YMC and OnStar and have received compensation for this post. All opinions are my own. 

I grew up in a family where travel was very important. From an early age, my younger brother and sister and I were very fortunate to experience many different destinations - from the beaches of the Caribbean to the happiest place on Earth, and a road trip here or there in between. From that young age, my parents gave us the “travel bug” and instilled in us the importance of family-time and creating lasting memories.

As I grew older, the urge and importance to travel stuck with me. Whether it be a road trip from Alaska to Toronto, an all-inclusive beach vacation or a simple weekend getaway, the urge to “get out of town” is always calling.

Now that we have a family of our own, the experience of travel is something we want to pass on to our children. Even with two little ones in tow, travelling as a family can’t stop and won’t stop. But, it most certainly has, and most certainly will, continue to change. 

The type of travel we do nowadays is a little bit different. Nowadays, we tend to spend less time in the air or relaxing on the beach with a frozen drink in hand, and more time in the car, road tripping from place to place. Our travelling adventures now also consist of more family time - weekend trips to Gramma and Poppa’s house, visits to the family cottage and even a camping weekend fill our travel itinerary. And we wouldn’t change it for the world. 

From the hours we’ve spent in the car the past two and a half years, we’ve learned many things about traveling with kids. The biggest, by far, is safety. And, unfortunately, our lesson in safety came from a less than positive road trip experience.

When our daughter was just seven months old, we were driving home from a long weekend away at Gramma and Poppa’s house. With our destination in sight, we were talking about what we planned to do later that afternoon. What that discussion didn’t include was totalling our car. But, that’s exactly what happened. 

Long story short, a student from the local high school decided to play “chicken” with the car in front of us as we were both driving through the intersection. Before we knew it, bam - we had smashed into the other car and almost flipped ours. Despite totalling our vehicle, the good news was was that mom, dad and baby were all safe (aside from some expected aches and pains).

Safety is often an afterthought – most people think “it won’t happen to me”. Reality is, life throws you curves. And on that fall day, life threw us one we weren’t expecting. Whether you’re driving in the city or on a family trip to the beach, an emergency can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time. 

OnStar  helps  provide  families with  peace of mind while on the road. With over 20 years of experience, this in-vehicle safety and security technology can connect you with real-life, medically-trained and certified emergency advisors in a time of need. They are there to assist in any situation, even when you aren’t in a position to call for help yourself.  This service is available on Chevrolet, Buick, GMC and Cadillac vehicles, and includes automatic crash response, stolen vehicle assistance, roadside assistance  and emergency services .  

We don’t want to let the fear of getting into a vehicle stop us from creating lasting memories with our family. Luckily, there are tools to help give us the confidence and peace of mind along our travels. I foresee many more family road trips in our future.

How do you ensure the safety of your family when you travel? I’d love to hear!


Family Road Trip Safety

What I’m Packing in My Hospital Bag for Baby #2

I am an over-packer. Always have been, and let’s be serious, probably always will be. 

When we travel, I always push the limits of my luggage, barely leaving enough room for souvenirs. Try as I might, I am no minimalist. A girl's gotta have options.

Sadly, the overpacking doesn't just stop with travel. When Morley was born, this overpacking also applied to her hospital bag. I packed way too much, and definitely learned a thing or two about what was a necessity and what could stay at home.
What I'm Packing in My Hospital Bag for Baby #2

Now that number two is on the way (like any day now), I will be taking a lesson from my own play book and planning accordingly for what I bring with us to the hospital. 

Here’s what I’ve got this go around. (Also scroll to the bottom for a list of items I plan to leave at home, ask what I packed, but didn't use, for baby #1.)

For Mom During Labour

  • Small toiletry bag: Lip balm, face wipes, deodorant, contact solution with case, extra hair ties and bobby pins
  • Sports bra: To wear during labour, because hospital gowns are hella uncomfortable
  • Socks: Because mama needs a fresh pedi, and oddly your feet get cold during labour
  • Reusable water bottle: Big enough for ice cubes - they will be your friend (also because you can't eat after you get an epidural)
  • iPhone plus charger: For all those photos you'll want to take, games of Candy Crush you'll want to dominate while waiting and music you'll want to listen to to distract yourself

For Mom Post-Partum

  • Nursing bra: I'm loving these comfy ones from Thyme Maternity
  • Additional toiletry items: Shampoo, conditioner, brush, toothpaste, toothbrush
  • Makeup: I literally could not have cared less what I looked like for Morley’s birth, and wore no makeup for my stay at the hospital - the same will apply to this babe, but I’d rather have it than not
  • Towel: Trust me, you will want to take a shower
  • Depends: Yes, as in those disposable underwear you think are only for old ladies 
  • Maxipads: Google "padsicles", you'll thank me later
  • Nursing pads: To prevent the leakage from ruining your nursing bras and shirts
  • Underwear: Granny panties will become your best friend post partum
  • Clothing: Loose fitting pants/leggings, cardigan, tank tops, extra socks, slippers and/or flip flops
  • Going home outfit: Maxi dresses will be comfortable during the summer heat
  • Snacks: Hospital food just doesn't cut it
  • Pillow and blanket: For some comfort from home
  • Medical info: ID, health card, etc. - just in case

For Baby

  • Hat: Even in the summer, babes will need to wear a hat
  • Mitts: Believe it or not, this is for your safety and theirs as they come out with long nails
  • Newborn socks: Fresh babes get cold easily
  • Size N or 1 diapers: Depending on the size of babe, you'll need to bring your own
  • Wipes: We're loving the new Pampers Pure Collection!
  • Breastfeeding pillow: Can double as a pillow when not in use by baby
  • Swaddle blanket(s): Aden + anais are my favourite!
  • Newborn to 3 month sleepers and onesies: Since we don't know the gender, we're loving the gender neutral selection at Carter's (they must also have animals on them)
  • Going home outfit: For those cute photos of course
  • Baby and big sister gifts: Aka a peace offering

And last, but definitely not least, we can't forget about dad...

For Dad

  • Change of clothes
  • iPhone and charger
  • Toiletries (tooth brush, tooth paste, deodorant, etc.)
  • Sweater
  • Pillow and blanket

Here are the items that I brought with us for baby #1, but that didn't even leave the bag. Safe to say, they will be staying at home this time.

Items I'm Leaving at Home

  • Camera and charger: Unless you are a professional, your phone will do just fine
  • Robe: I found a long cardigan/sweater worked just as well when I needed to walk the halls
  • Birth plan: Let's be honest, you can plan all your want for how you want your labour to go but there's a good chance that plan will go right out the window once it begins

What did you pack in your hospital bag? What am I forgetting? Please share!

The Deal with the Gender Reveal

As a pregnant woman, you get asked a lot of questions - some odd, some normal and some totally predictable.

For example, a few months back I was crossing a fairly busy intersection downtown Toronto, when an early 20-something yelled out, “How is being pregnant?” as we walked past each other. Without stopping, I said the first thing that came to my mind - awesome! She responded with, “Really?!”, as I laughed and kept on walking. 

Awesome? That’s the best I could come up with? It was a lie. This pregnancy has not been what I would call awesome. But, what did she expect me to do? Stop mid-intersection and say, “I’m sore, my feet are swollen, I don’t sleep and for the first few months I was nauseous as hell”? And so, I went with awesome. She seemed satisfied enough with the answer as I walked away.

Like I said, some questions are odd. 

The Deal with the Gender Reveal

By far, the biggest question I get when people find out I’m pregnant is, “Do you know what you’re having?”. It’s pretty common, and really comes at any point in the pregnancy and from anyone - man, woman, old, young. You name it, they’ve asked.

And when I give them the answer, they always seem surprised.

The answer is no. As in, no we did not find out what we were having. Not with baby number one. And not with baby number two.

The Deal with the Gender Reveal

When I was pregnant with Morley, I never would have guessed I was having a girl. From day one, I was convinced it was a boy. I read into all the signs - my OB telling me the baby had a “girl’s heartbeat” (of course she was playing mind games with me) and the ultrasound tech quickly moving the screen as she looked between baby’s legs (because she didn’t want me to see what was there). I was even told how I was carrying was indicative of a boy. Surely someone who’s gone through it before would know the truth in that, right?

In fact, I was so convinced, I had also convinced others. Mainly my family. When Steve walked out of the delivery room saying it was a girl, there was a bit of shock before the tears of joy. That’s how convinced they were.

This go around, I haven’t even wagered a guess. I stay mum when people ask. When you’re pregnant, everyone assumes you have a preference. The fact is, I didn’t and don’t care what we have. I think we both agree when I say, we just want a healthy baby.

If genetics had their way, we would be having a boy. I am the oldest of three kids with a younger brother next in line and Steve is youngest of two with an older sister. Girl, boy would be the trend.

But, I am also fully prepared to be a girl mom. We march to the beat of our own drum, so it wouldn’t surprise us to “buck the family trend”. (And if that’s the case, I pity my husband. There are going to be some serious hormonal girl spats in his future.)

The Deal with the Gender Reveal

Many people don’t find out the gender for many different reasons. For some, it may help to teach them what it feels like to lose control - you know, when your house is an absolute mess and there is nothing you can do about it loss of control. It may also help with the shopping - if you don’t know what you’re having you can’t go wild buying pink or blue. Or, like many suggest, it may help with “the final push” - the eagerness to meet your little miss or mr helps you get through those final moments of labour. 

Having gone through it once before, I can’t be certain it helps in the moment, but I do think it comes down to the anticipation.  Call me crazy, but I like the element of surprise (and I’m not typically one for surprises). Personally, I think it’s one of the biggest surprises we will ever experience in life. It sure is an exciting moment when the doctor says, “It’s a little [insert gender here]”.  For us, no confetti filled balloon or coloured cake reveal could top that moment. 

The Deal with the Gender Reveal

So that is why we wait. It could be a few days or it could be a few more weeks, but we will wait for the ultimate gender reveal. And that, my friends, is the deal. 

Oh, and if you’re wondering what the second most common question a pregnant woman gets usually is? It’s, “Will you be getting an epidural?”. To which I quickly respond, “Ah, hell yes.”

Did you find out the gender of your children? Why or why not? I’d love to know!